Woman Fails 'Supportive Wife Test' According to Entitled Husband When She Decides to Make a Roast Dinner for Him Instead of Picking Him Up from Airport: 'I didn't know telepathy was part of my wifely duties'

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Nov 4, 2024 4:00 PM EST

Welcome, tea-spillers. Dating in adolescence is all about experimenting with different people, learning how to communicate, and figuring out your personal boundaries. We all likely look back at some of our very first relationships and cringe - not just at the types of guys we were into, but at our own hormone-fueled behavior. Unfortunately, it is not uncommon for youngsters experimenting with love and emotions to 'test' each other.  One might lie to see how the other will react, or they may attempt to goad each other into saying something they don't mean just to fulfill some expectation. 

While this is incredibly immature and manipulative, it is well within the lines of what is normal for young adults who have no experience in dating, and most people quickly grow out of this sort of behavior. However, in our story today, a married woman is left flabbergasted when her husband of more than twenty years reveals that he has been secretly administering 'supportive wife tests,' which she has apparently failed. To read her reaction, scroll down below. 

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    TWO TAKE r/TwoHotTakes u/raggedyange77 • 20h Did I fail the 'Supportive Wife Test' by cooking a roast dinner instead of doing an airport run?
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    My husband (46M) has been overseas on a business trip for the past week. I'm a school teacher (47F) and have been home on a mid term break. Over the weekend, our very elderly cat (19.5 years) began to deteriorate in health rapidly. So as soon as our vet clinic was open on Monday morning, I made her an appointment knowing they would probably recommend putting her down.
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    This all happened while my husband was on the longest return leg of his journey home and was uncontactable for over 10 hours, but I left messages on our family chat informing he and our (adult) children what was happening. The vet could only fit us in around hour before my husband's flight was due to land. We hadn't discussed how he was getting home but generally when he travels on business, he Ubers to and from the airport.
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    I knew my husband was feeling low before he boarded the plane. The trip hadn't gone as well as he had hoped and he'd had been confronted and verbally abused by a disgruntled associate in front of a number of people on the last day of a trade show. He's not a confrontational person, so this caused immense distress and embarrassment to him. I would have liked to have met him at the
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    airport and the thought did cross my mind. However in previous years, he has been unreceptive of me 'going rogue' and arriving to pick him up unexpectedly. He has complained about the cost of parking and fuelling our car, when he could claim an Uber as a work expense much more easily. I think he also appreciates that final bit of alone time to reflect and debrief before submersing himself in busy family life.
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    As I expected, the vet said it was time for our beloved pet to depart this life however, my children (20M and 22M) had not had the opportunity to say goodbye to a pet they had grown up with and had requested to see her one last time. So the vet provided medication to keep her comfortable and I brought her home for the night.
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    I stopped on the way from the vet to pick up ingredients for a roast dinner. As I was preparing to cook, I got a text from my husband saying he had landed and was aware of what was happening at home. I messaged back and asked if he wanted someone to pick him up (because one of our sons could have driven to the airport to get him at that point) but I didn't get a reply. He caught an Uber home, gave everyone a warm hug and appreciated his roast dinner. We all spent the night cuddling and loving ou
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    The next morning he made breakfast and as we sat at the counter eating, he told me that I 'failed the supportive wife test last night' by not picking him up at the airport, knowing how his trip had ended. He said he hoped I didn't fail it again on Sunday when he runs his first marathon.
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    Side note, I'm not a runner and I don't often attend his running events as he has a big group of supportive friends who are keen on running and usually, he tells me their support is ample and it's not necessary for me to be there.
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    There is also another little twist with this marathon. He signed up for it back in June. It falls on our 23rd wedding anniversary. We have had multiple discussions in the months since he signed up and he knows I am annoyed that he allowed his friends to talk him into signing up (at the finish line of a half marathon) to an event that will impact and dominate our entire anniversary weekend, without the
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    courtesy of discussing it with me first (I WAS at that half marathon. He got to the finish line, went and saw all his friends who were still in the competitors area, signed up for the marathon and then came and found me, with the spectators, to tell me about it. There was no reason why he couldn't have included me in the decision making process. I was standing just metres away.
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    Needless to say, the accusation of failing some secret, unspecified test left me absolutely stunned! I know he had a rough time in his last couple of days overseas but it wasn't much of a picnic at home either! I reminded him that I had to make a decision, just moments after having it confirmed that our beloved pet of 2 decades required euthanasia. To either race home, drop her off and rush out to the airport or come home and prepare a nice dinner. I couldn't do both. I continued that I was feel
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    as our youngest son) was and I had been so preoccupied trying to keep her calm and comfortable that I hadn't had time to do so much as plan for dinner. I had been crying all day and watching her suffer. I also pointed out that the time span between the vet appointment and his flight landing was finite and there was a possibility (as he wasn't expecting me) that he could have landed and got into an Uber before I even made it to the airport. In which case, he'd have had no airport greeting AND no
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    He reiterated that the roast was lovely and appreciated but he still would have preferred I met him at the airport on this occasion. I guess after 23 years of marriage, telepathy was somehow added to the job description without so much as a memo! The last few days have been tough on everyone. We're all raw and emotional. So his comment to me over breakfast still echoes in my head. Is it possible that I 'failed the supportive wife test' by choosing to cook a roast dinner for my husband rather tha
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    SnooBananas7203 • 20h No, you didn't fail. It seems like your husband is in a bad mood and looking for a fight. My condolences for the loss of your kitty. Reply 1 4k 4k
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    EducationalFriend933 • 16h It seams that he's frustrated with his work and he takes out his frustration on the wife. He feels more comfortable to put her down than speak up in front of his colleagues.. if she'd have gone to pick him up, there would be a problem because he told her before not to do that. So there was no wining situation in here.. ← a ☆ 1k
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    lotteoddities • 7h It's called aggression displacement. He's mad at work - but can't express it to them. So he's being rude to his wife because she's a safe person to do so. And he probably was a little hurt that she didn't pick him up so he feels even more justified. It's behavior. And he's missing your anniversary to run a marathon? I would be going to couples counseling. He is selfish. 296
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    CuriousCake3196 • 19h Exactly this. OP would have gotten some sort of complaint no matter what she chose. 643
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    LvBorzoi 12h Sounds like Hubby passed the "insensitive dude" test by signing up for a marathon on for his 23rd anniversary and confirmed the award by complaining that wife didn't pick him up when he has repeatedly said not to because it's easier to expense the Uber. 134
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    WhoisthatRobotCleanr. 16h It also sounds like he thinks he's the center of the universe and that everybody should just cater to him without asking how. He wants her to read his mind. ... 91
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    Jooleycee 18h • Misery loves company ... 56
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    No_Garbage3192 - 19h He failed the how to be an adult and communicate with your wife about what you want test ... 1 1.6k
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    SamuelVimesTrained ⚫ 17h He failed the empathic human, supportive husband test too. And perhaps the "am i a realist" and "do i realize the world does not revolve around me" tests as well. 616
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    Fitz Design 19h Man your husband is a piece of work. He doesn't like you picking him up at the airport, yet you are supposed to magically know he wants to be picked up. Your beloved family pet is dying and the kids are upset, yet you weren't supportive of him because your telepathy failed. He plans a marathon on your wedding anniversary and you're supposed to be happy with that.....
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    Sorry but your husband is selfish and self centred. You only matter to him when you are doing something for him. Your needs are immaterial in front of him. Take the cat to the vet with your children and leave him behind. Go out and treat yourself to a lovely spa day on your anniversary and leave him behind. Don't plan anything for the day and see if he does. anything.
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    You need marriage counselling to see if this marriage can be salvaged. I guess the better question is whether or not it's worth saving. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with a selfish AH? ... ← Reply 234
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    Friendlyrat 20h He can't have it both ways. If he has not liked it when you picked him up in the past, he can't expect you to be psychic and know that this time is different. If he wanted a pick up he needed to be a grownup and use his words to let you know that. ← Reply 954
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    Either_Compote235 • 20h Your husband has no empathy, are you super woman? Well I think you are, dealing with your beloved cat, cooking a wonderful dinner. If my husband said I failed the supportive wife test I would have lost it. Your husband doesn't deserve you. ... Reply 202
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